My lovely wife and I were shopping at the local thrift store the other day and I picked up a magazine for sale off of the rack.  It was at first glance, what I thought was a mens fitness magazine.  It turns out that it WAS a mens fitness magazine, emphasis on the MENS part.....I had to put it down, but not before I read some article/advertisement in it that proclaimed the found secret to getting lots of women/all the women you want to HAVE.   Note:  It was extreme irony that this particular ad was in THIS magazine but so be it.

Anyway, I read the ad and it talked about how if you just purchased these tapes/cds for X dollars, you would get the secret to getting laid all the time, without fail.  The ad hinted that the problem started with low self-esteem issues and lack of confidence, etc. 

My whole take on this issue is this:  If you want to know the secret to getting anything you want including getting laid, let me tell you right now:  THERE IS NONE!!!

At 18, 19 and 20 I still had traces of self doubt and non-confidence but guess what?  I still got together with a few female companions for cookies and tea!  You know what I mean.

The ironic thing about reading that article was that I used to think like the non-Atlas guys who got sand kicked in their faces on the beach.  Honestly, when I was 17 at least, I felt like these ad guys.  But it wasn't because of anything other than my own self-doubt.  I didn't need to send off for any miracle cure or secret formula.  I needed time.

Once, my wife and I heard a preacher talk about things being in your time and in your season and there is a difference.  Your season is a broader view, like your YEAR.  Your time is a more focused period, like TODAY.  So you can be in your season, but today for instance may not be your TIME.  You have to be patient and keep believing and working towards your goal.  Your time will come. 

Everyone says that too, "Your time will come" and it will.

It took years for me to be confident in who I was and to be happy with who and what I had become.  I also had to grow into my body and my mind.  When I was 17, I think alot of people, especially girls could see that I had not grown.  I was 5'10 and towered over most of them, but I had not grown into that confident young that I would later become.

Women and men are different and yet the same.  At different times in our lives, we have reasons for what we decide to persue and choices that we make.  At 17, I might be interested in persuing as many girls/women as possible and this may last until I'm 23.  At 27, she might be interested in doing what I was doing at 17 to 23.  The bottom line is that there is no secret, no formula, no perscription for going after what you want, whether it's sex with whomever or whether it's becoming an astronaut.  IF you desire to do anything and work towards doing that thing with full intention, you'll get it done, eventually.

So, to my low-self esteem brothers and sisters out there, save the $19.95 or whatever price someone is trying to sell you.  Be yourself and have resolve about what you want.  If there is a secret, it's just that, BE YOURSELF.  Know that your time will eventually come.

And please know this:  If you are yourself, and if you actually want something, anything in life, you will eventually get what you want, whether you like it or not.